When singles look for a new partner, they are looking for a genuine connection. No matter what relationships they have had in the past, or what type of relationship they are now looking for, no one wants to have their time wasted. Even more so, singles don’t want to feel they have been duped or lied to.
Live video chat apps and websites such as Omegle and ChatRandom are examples of where things can go seriously wrong. These platforms connect you with a chat partner at random, using live video. Essentially, it can be a unique and engaging way to connect with someone new. But without any identity verification processes there is huge potential for abuse of the site at the expense of other users.
It only takes one out of context screenshot or a zoom in on your background to have enough information on you to blackmail you, unfortunately. Further to this, without proof of age requirement sites like these can leave some users vulnerable in some cases. We set out wanting to find connection, not a trap!
There are certainly darker sides of online dating that singles need to be aware of if they are to stay safe while seeking partners. Despite the numerous advantages of the internet – and indeed the advances – there are those out there who seek to scam online daters for financial or even personal gain. It’s important to be aware of the signs of a scam, to avoid wasting time and money.
To keep yourself safe online, here are the 5 signs you need to know about;
1)Are they staying consistent?
If the person you are speaking to is jumping between stories and not staying consistent in what they’ve told you, then this could be something to be concerned about. We can all make mistakes with our memory, but if someone constantly changes the facts then this could be a sign they’re lying to you. No healthy or happy relationship is based on lies, so don’t waste any more time on this person and make sure to cut them loose as quickly as possible.
2)Do they seem too good to be true?
We would all love to meet the person of our dreams, of course. But if the person appears to be ‘too good to be true’ then this might actually be the case. Celebrity profile photos, promises of money, and boasts of how much someone earns are all warning signs. Your gut will usually tell you the answer to the questions you find yourself asking. Listen to your instincts and let them lead you to safety.
3)Are they being at all pushy?
If someone is constantly messaging you and chasing you for a reply, then this is a very big red flag. Not only is it an aggressive behaviour, but it could be a sign they are trying to manipulate you for ulterior purposes. It could also be a signal that they are leading towards trying to manipulate you in some way, either in a criminal sense or in a personal one. Give them a wide berth, and report them if and when you need to.
4)Are they asking you for money or personal details?
If someone is using a dating site to ask for money, then they are not looking for love – they are looking for someone to finance them. This is not what online dating is about. Unfortunately, many singles fall into the trap of similar such scams. Let the site you’re using know if it does happen and then block the account immediately. It’s not worth your valuable time.
5)Do they want to leave the website?
If someone is trying to persuade you to head off the host website and give them your private number, then this could be a sign that they are trying to avoid the regulations the dating website offers. They may want you to be away from a place of safety, and it is not advisable to do so until you have at least met the person or got to know them a little better. Remember – you should always be free to move at the pace that feels comfortable for you.
Dating should be an enjoyable experience, not a source of stress! You have every right to be who you are and share that with the world. But it’s important to be aware of the darker shades of the online dating world in order to protect yourself from harm.
Using these 5 key safety tips will help you stay safe online, no matter what dating website or app you choose to use.
The most important thing to remember is to always trust your gut instincts. If something doesn’t feel right then you are probably correct in thinking something isn’t adding up. It’s absolutely fine to ask your date more questions if you need to, or to ask for a second opinion from the website itself or from a friend.
As the saying goes – it’s far better to be safe than to be sorry!
There are certainly some negative – even dangerous – people out there who will manipulate unsuspecting daters online. But they do make up a small proportion of the millions of users that healthily and respectfully use dating apps and websites every day online.
The world really is full of goodness! And with the right safety measures in place, you can enjoy meeting many of the wonderful singles that are ready and waiting to meet you out there.
You deserve the best in every area of your life this 2020 – and that definitely includes your dating life!